Four Questions Toward Bridging the Divides

The key to beginning to bridge the huge social and political divides that the election results brought out so starkly is to engage and build relationships with each other rather than continue to attack and defeat each other. To do that, it is essential that we first listen to each other, with true curiosity, and…

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The Marriage of a Family – Roots Intertwining and Fusing into One

These days, for two people getting married, it is not at all unusual that one or both of them have been married before and have children. So, oftentimes now, it is not just the couple joining their lives together in marriage, but also it’s a joining of their families, their children, together. In a sense,…

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A Safe and Caring Place to Hold and Nurture Each Other Right Now

This past Sunday a colleague and I facilitated a post-election gathering for over 2 hours at my local Unitarian Universalist Church, near Hartland Vermont, to talk about what’s going on for each of us in the aftermath of the presidential election and to look at some possibilities for moving forward. 21 people were there –…

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Solitude and Community

“… we need solitude and community simultaneously: what we learn in one mode can check and balance what we learn in the other. Together, they make us whole, like breathing in and breathing out. … Solitude does not necessarily mean living apart from others; rather, it means never living apart from one’s self. It is…

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For Courage

My Dad was generally a man of few words, but one of his favorite expressions was “No News is Good News”. This is usually taken to mean that if you don’t hear from somebody or about something, then you can assume all is okay, because if something was wrong you’d hear about it. The absence of…

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“No News is Good News”

My Dad was generally a man of few words, but one of his favorite expressions was “No News is Good News”. This is usually taken to mean that if you don’t hear from somebody or about something, then you can assume all is okay, because if something was wrong you’d hear about it. The absence of…

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A Wedding in our Living Room

As noted on the Weddings page, the home and property in West Windsor, Vermont, that I share with my wife Helen, is also a place where couples can get married. While it is quite lovely to tie the knot outside, under our beautiful arch amidst the trees when the weather permits, we also have a…

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Unity Cross Ritual – Joining and Held Together by God

At a wedding I officiated last Saturday on a beautiful hilltop in the White Mountains of New Hampshire, the couple chose to include the Christian ritual of the Unity Cross. Signifying the wedding covenant, the Unity Cross is a lasting reminder of the Bride and Groom coming together with their faith in Christ, beginning their…

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